Hands down my wife won Husband vs Wife part 1 and I won Husband vs Wife (The Sequel) however we are at it again. This time it's a bit more serious and is going to probably end in a draw because no one child is alike and it's a situation that will inevitably change one day. Anyway we are having another debate but this round is not financial. The debate is about what to do to get my son potty trained AGAIN at daycare.
After my son's daycare relocated at the beginning of the year my son stopped using the potty in the new location and has become afraid of the toilet (which is the same style from before) that they have. From January to March he wore a pamper and when I would go pick him up I would take it off because he is still potty trained everywhere else. However, as of last month the daycare stopped putting diapers on ALL the kids his age to help bridge the potty training gap that all of us parents are facing. As of a week ago it has gotten worse. For the last 3 days he has had accidents and is no longer trying to hold it and strongly refuses to go to the potty in daycare.
Her Unbiased Denfense
My wife says that everything will change and that we should do nothing as my son is a 2.5 year old boy who will eventually grow out of it. She feels it's a normal behavior that some kids go through and, by us trying to do something about it, could have adverse effects on his potty training. She also feels that I am probably making it worse being that kids pick up on emotion and behavior.
My Unbiased Denfense
While I am in agreement that it is normal for setbacks to occur and I think nothing is wrong with my son, I do think we need to try something to get him back on board the potty train again. Here are some of my suggestions that I through out on the table.
1. Bring our potty from home and leave it at the daycare.
2. Hang out in daycare until the first potty call and see if I could be assistance.
3. Bring our "Cars" cover seat that he uses outside while we are away from home.
4. Change him for an already trained one. (my wife doesn't find this funny and says she will change me for a better looking husband) Touche!!!
All jokes aside I know there is nothing wrong but I would be lying if I said it didn't bother me. I don't know why but it does. Maybe it's my insecurities or my fear that the other little ones will start picking on him one day. Maybe it's because I want my kids to be perfect like every other parent in the world and when things don't go my way I feel like I do. Maybe I feel there is a potty training competition and my son will lose if he doesn't get back on his groove.
In case you are wondering I try my very best to not let my emotions show when I go pick him up. In fact just yesterday my wife called me to tell me that she called the daycare and found out he had an accident and then contacted me to tell me ahead of time. I told her that I am not mad at him but my feelings are my feelings that I am working through. I am trying my best to address them but I am a fairly new parent who needs training as well (not potty).
Yesterday, as I walked into daycare, my son came up to me and I told him I loved him and asked him how his day was. He said good and then told me he wet his pants. I said that I knew and that it was totally ok. I then asked him if he would help me wash the wet clothes when we got home. He smiled and said yes.
I am not asking to be judged but I am asking for help or just a little support. I have looked on the forums, read the posts and just last night bought an ebook 3 day potty training by Lora Jensen. Please let me know your thoughts.